I always have experienced difficulties to maintain a decent, modest, harmonious relationship with the opposite gender
My brain : What about your mother and sister ?
Me: well yeah they are exceptions.
I have no such troubles with my male friends
My brain : Oho!! i guess you are hinting on something else here. You have always been conventional why change now :P
Me: i being a virgin prefer to stay straight and this post is not about that....and will you shutup and let me type this *stop*
so coming back to my struggle in maintaining a relationship with a girl, right from school days i have always doubted on my capabilities to successfully carry on my interaction/relationship (which i have not achieved) with girls i know (My brain: very few indeed. ur success rate is terribly low. Ha ha :d)
I never took it very seriously until recently when i realised that how terribly i have failed. nevertheless it is not too late now. My point is it is not only about me but about the space i share with women.
I have always found women very amusing (My brain: you're no extraordinary Gentleman! least of all a very common 'gentle'man). They are very gentle, kind, shrewd and caring. Going by Darwin's theory, they are the more stronger gender and more dependable gender. All evolutionary indicators point out this fact very clearly.
Their strong and deep limbic system, helps them to be in strong touch and control with their emotions and makes it easier for women to express their feelings and emotions. That is why a mother's care is more instinctive. This deeper limbic systems enhances their non verbal communication skills like eye contacts, body language, empathy, tone of voice, more intuitive implications etc (which men easily miss to recognise) making them better communicators and helping them to bond with others. Which is why mothers can identify easily whats wrong with their babies.
Men on the other hand have generally a feeble and less reactive limbic system which makes them terrible communicators. (no wonder my friend dint understand what his girlfriend implied. Cant blame him!!!)
Nature is very prejudiced in providing them with more hormones to tackle stress and depression. Oxytocin released by the brain to counteract on depression is enhanced by Estrogens (female sex hormones) while its male counterpart Testosterone neutralises Oxytocin making male more vulnerable to stress and depression. That is why men prefer "Fight or Flight" strategy colloquially "Pickup, drop, Escape" strategy of 'gentle'men.
This strong limbic system also enhances their capability to subside the effects of testosterone whenever they want to. For example during pregnancy they release Pheromones which when sensed by male brain reduces the testosterone production and increases his prolactin secretion (hormone acting against sexual arousal in males while stimulates mammary glands for lactation in females)
Highly unfair!!! Men should start protesting for Gender inequality. Females have super scientific methods of controlling us (apart from of course conventional tears)
Men on the other hand have 10% extra brain mass (but it has got hardly anything to do with intelligence and it proportionates only to the physical mass). Inspite of having higher mass, they have lesser dendritic connections between the neurons which enables them to be dominantly left brain dependent. That is why males are more analytical and more pragmatic. They react faster to visible disturbances than to more subtler disturbances (A strong weapon for women to misguide male)
Look at this situation 'My friend's girlfriend was crying and he got immediately tensed and wanted to solve all her problems. She is crying as she talks about what's wrong with the relationship, and instead of hugging her, his mind is racing to find a way to resolve the problem as soon as possible. With practice and because of the way their brains are wired, he used his analytical brain structures, not his emotional ones, to find a solution.' Poor she, she dint know that he is working to solve the problem so he can relieve her pain as quickly as possible. Not because he doesn't care or doesn't want to listen, but because he loves her.'
Having all these positive traits i have always wondered why women did not have a greater social impact (well they do have to some extent). But conceivably and historically males have been very successful be it scientific inventions, art and architecture, philosophy, religion, literature etc... until the dawn of 20th century women in history have never been identified with the success.
I was exposed to this fallacy during my recent visit to Italy. Florence the magnificent city which has produced the best of the best architects and sculptors the world has seen .....has hardly played any role in improving the social status of Women. Irrespective of cultural, temporal and geographical backgrounds, women across all cultures, across all parts of the world, from time to time have been shied away from the world Male has conquered.
Women are either kept insanely indoors or given a supernatural Mother-God status. There has never been a mediocre acceptable status and whenever i try to give them that status i land up in trouble not understanding their emotions and often resulting in a fight and eventually i become the bad boy. I am sorry girls i cant act against the science, it is my nature to confront and your nature to befriend and to find a symbiotic relationship it needs the perfect balance from both of us......
Thanks to the all girls i have fought with you have helped me to understand the science behind it and i am in awe of that very science.
Source:http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/03/23/brizendine.male.brain/index.html
Me: well yeah they are exceptions.
I have no such troubles with my male friends
My brain : Oho!! i guess you are hinting on something else here. You have always been conventional why change now :P
Me: i being a virgin prefer to stay straight and this post is not about that....and will you shutup and let me type this *stop*
so coming back to my struggle in maintaining a relationship with a girl, right from school days i have always doubted on my capabilities to successfully carry on my interaction/relationship (which i have not achieved) with girls i know (My brain: very few indeed. ur success rate is terribly low. Ha ha :d)
I never took it very seriously until recently when i realised that how terribly i have failed. nevertheless it is not too late now. My point is it is not only about me but about the space i share with women.
I have always found women very amusing (My brain: you're no extraordinary Gentleman! least of all a very common 'gentle'man). They are very gentle, kind, shrewd and caring. Going by Darwin's theory, they are the more stronger gender and more dependable gender. All evolutionary indicators point out this fact very clearly.
Their strong and deep limbic system, helps them to be in strong touch and control with their emotions and makes it easier for women to express their feelings and emotions. That is why a mother's care is more instinctive. This deeper limbic systems enhances their non verbal communication skills like eye contacts, body language, empathy, tone of voice, more intuitive implications etc (which men easily miss to recognise) making them better communicators and helping them to bond with others. Which is why mothers can identify easily whats wrong with their babies.
Men on the other hand have generally a feeble and less reactive limbic system which makes them terrible communicators. (no wonder my friend dint understand what his girlfriend implied. Cant blame him!!!)
Nature is very prejudiced in providing them with more hormones to tackle stress and depression. Oxytocin released by the brain to counteract on depression is enhanced by Estrogens (female sex hormones) while its male counterpart Testosterone neutralises Oxytocin making male more vulnerable to stress and depression. That is why men prefer "Fight or Flight" strategy colloquially "Pickup, drop, Escape" strategy of 'gentle'men.
This strong limbic system also enhances their capability to subside the effects of testosterone whenever they want to. For example during pregnancy they release Pheromones which when sensed by male brain reduces the testosterone production and increases his prolactin secretion (hormone acting against sexual arousal in males while stimulates mammary glands for lactation in females)
Highly unfair!!! Men should start protesting for Gender inequality. Females have super scientific methods of controlling us (apart from of course conventional tears)
Men on the other hand have 10% extra brain mass (but it has got hardly anything to do with intelligence and it proportionates only to the physical mass). Inspite of having higher mass, they have lesser dendritic connections between the neurons which enables them to be dominantly left brain dependent. That is why males are more analytical and more pragmatic. They react faster to visible disturbances than to more subtler disturbances (A strong weapon for women to misguide male)
Look at this situation 'My friend's girlfriend was crying and he got immediately tensed and wanted to solve all her problems. She is crying as she talks about what's wrong with the relationship, and instead of hugging her, his mind is racing to find a way to resolve the problem as soon as possible. With practice and because of the way their brains are wired, he used his analytical brain structures, not his emotional ones, to find a solution.' Poor she, she dint know that he is working to solve the problem so he can relieve her pain as quickly as possible. Not because he doesn't care or doesn't want to listen, but because he loves her.'
Having all these positive traits i have always wondered why women did not have a greater social impact (well they do have to some extent). But conceivably and historically males have been very successful be it scientific inventions, art and architecture, philosophy, religion, literature etc... until the dawn of 20th century women in history have never been identified with the success.
I was exposed to this fallacy during my recent visit to Italy. Florence the magnificent city which has produced the best of the best architects and sculptors the world has seen .....has hardly played any role in improving the social status of Women. Irrespective of cultural, temporal and geographical backgrounds, women across all cultures, across all parts of the world, from time to time have been shied away from the world Male has conquered.
Women are either kept insanely indoors or given a supernatural Mother-God status. There has never been a mediocre acceptable status and whenever i try to give them that status i land up in trouble not understanding their emotions and often resulting in a fight and eventually i become the bad boy. I am sorry girls i cant act against the science, it is my nature to confront and your nature to befriend and to find a symbiotic relationship it needs the perfect balance from both of us......
Thanks to the all girls i have fought with you have helped me to understand the science behind it and i am in awe of that very science.
Source:http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/03/23/brizendine.male.brain/index.html
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